About this couple in the picture.

They look happy. And they are. Not just because they are attractive and sitting in a lovely comfortable room. And not just because everything went well for them today. Both of them, as individuals, have learned the difference between what brings real happiness and what brings temporary “relief” that can be damaging and empty long term. Each has made a courageous move to step back and see the truth about where they are and where they have been and what mistakes and have been made, along with wins that have occurred. They have accepted mistakes or shortcomings (and wins) as information to be learned from rather than failure to be ashamed of or winning performances to be praised for. They have learned that love can’t be earned. They know how to see real love, and how to participate better in it, both as a receiver and a giver. They are responsible (i.e. they take action). They have adjusted their expectations and see far more gifts in the world and have far more gratitude than ever before. And, (then) they became a couple. They have much to give to the other and energetically do so because they want to. Not because they have to. And not for an exchange, but for the joy of the gift. They are committed, and enjoy the journey together while sharing everything. Yes, they are happy even on the less-than-desired days and they have peace and happiness and meaning equal to that of the “good” days.

You may be surprised here, but… This example is quite attainable. This is NOT a ridiculous platitude. What IS ridiculous, are the myths and traditions and cultural things that we fall into that cause us to put our energy into things that not only don’t matter, but cause pain, it the name of “love” or “happiness”.

Are you here?:

• Relationship isn’t what you were expecting or hoping for?

• Lonely and looking for relationships?

• Lonely despite having relationships?

• Lonely but won’t admit it?

• Feel hurt?

• Lost?

• Where is the person I fell in love with?

• Why can’t he/she understand?

• Why can’t he/she just do what I want them to?

• Not happy despite having tons of stuff or people around you?

• Happy only when everything goes your way?

• Tired of people in general?

• Tired of your own complaining and having so many walls up?

• Tired of lying or being lied to?

• Skeptical about everything or cringe at the state of the world?

• Generally happy but want to improve (!) (This is brilliant!!)

You can be here:

• Be ridiculously in love.

• Have relationships that are a playground rather than a prison.

• Understand and believe that you are not a POS (and I don’t mean Point of Sale)

• See and know that you have substantial meaning and purpose.

• Have an undeniable sense of belonging.

• Be at peace with things you can’t control.

• Have little things stop bothering you.

• Have big things stop bothering you.

• Have energy! The creative kind. Not the stressed kind.

• Have no constant cringe in the pit of your stomach.

• See relationship building as fun rather than a burden.

• Have no worry when others disagree or disapprove.

• Have happiness even when you lose a job or a thing.